Slowing down dating process
My old demon, the need to feel loved, had been activated.I've defeated this pesky nemesis, but he's resilient.I shared my feelings with her about something she'd done that had genuinely hurt my feelings.Her response was that I wasn't being emotionally honest.Spiders don't take their webs down when they've caught their dinner. If I meet a woman, and we date and like each other, what's the next step?I realized after a brief relationship recently, that I wasn't ready to trust her.Circular arguments only occur when feelings are ignored in favor of opinions. I felt good about having stuck to my guns regarding not becoming sexual too soon.
Then there's the issue of dating etiquette, which doesn't appear to exist at all, and since there aren't any rules, dating behavior ranges from polite to rude.Since she had read my articles on emotional honesty in , I was surprised by her accusation.I told her that in fact I had just shared my emotional truth with her, and that my feelings are my absolute truth.Then she tried to convince me that my feelings weren't valid.Discounting, minimizing or judging another person's feelings is insulting and indicates a total lack of resolution skills. That we hadn't become sexual yet made ending our brief relationship uncomfortable, but uncomplicated.
But trying to go slow in a dating world that operates at supersonic speed is difficult, because it's really easy to get caught up in the partnering race.